May 11, 2012

Evolving

I’m delighted President Obama has declared that he supports marriage equality, really I am.  It’s about fucking time, of course, and perhaps it’s a calculated political statement and I don’t care because he’s a politician and that’s what they do.

But it exhausts me that we’ve put this much energy into just getting him to a point where the President of this nation can say, “Yeah, people should be allowed equal rights.”  Setting aside for a moment that I don’t know of a single gay person who has been asked to comment on whether she or he thinks the President should be allowed to be married, we have a lot of real problems in this world.  Serious, real problems that are going to seriously fuck up our future as a species.  That we have to devote this kind of energy to arguing a question like this pisses me off.

I have no doubt that we do need to fight for equal rights if people wish to deny them to others.  But, I can’t understand why people would devote their time and energy to that kind of shit.  Really?  You can’t find a more productive use of your time than trying to stop people you don’t even know from marrying one another?  Is it really more frightening to see two women marrying one another than it is to see thousands of women dying due to inadequate medical care?  Is it really more disturbing to know two men might get married than it is to know that untold numbers of men will get cancer from the air they are forced to breathe?

So, can we stop arguing about this already?  Can we just bow to the inevitable of marriage equality and put our considerable brainpower and resources into, I don’t know, feeding people or cleaning up our water or fighting global climate change?

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8 Comments

  • Reply Devon May 11, 2012 at 1:52 am

    You seriously underestimate my very legitimate fear that I might be out drinking, get seriously shit-faced, and end up with a wedding ring on my finger and a man in my bed.

    • Reply emily May 11, 2012 at 1:55 am

      Hahahahahaha!

  • Reply Melanie May 11, 2012 at 1:59 am

    no kidding…. you are absolutely right… now if someone can please tell me why the statements came after an important vote, I would appreciate it, because even if you believe his opinion carried no weight what-so-ever I still think it should have been said sooner… but better now than never

  • Reply Ken May 11, 2012 at 2:13 am

    Devon – did you see Colbert last night? He did a similar bit where they cut away to a remote segment and when they came back to him there was a decorative arch behind him and he was about to put a ring on a man’s finger. I don’t watch him religiously (excuse the pun) but I assume it was a staff member who is know to be gay. He then did a head shake to bring himself to his senses and send poor Tad (Thad?) on his way.

    I can’t agree more Emily that an issue like this is a major distraction, and shame on the Republican’s for riling up the less informed to take Obama down. But … it happens on both sides … They … the system behind the system, love it – because while one hand is doing hocus pocus over the hat promising a rabbit, they are under the table with all there under the table dealings. But then it’s as much entropy as it is a human issue. Sigh.

    • Reply Devon May 16, 2012 at 1:03 pm

      I didn’t see that! I’ll make sure to find it and look it up. I love stuff like that because sometimes I think laughing is the only possible response.

  • Reply Dena May 11, 2012 at 3:26 am

    Well said Emily!!!

  • Reply Ashley R May 11, 2012 at 4:05 am

    I’ll throw my two cents in to say that the majority of Christians I know DO spend their time and resources working to alleviate these other problems and tend to stay out of politics. They just don’t make the news. Every church I have ever been a part of (each of which would not marry a gay couple because of religious conviction, though it likely thinks the church has no business deciding that issue for the state) has spent plenty of time and money caring for the orphans, widows, the homeless, single parents, and the poor…has sent people all over the world to fight injustice and poverty, to provide good medical care and clean water and education…has been involved in community clean-up projects and disaster relief. These are the things that take up their time and energy. But that doesn’t make a good storyline for the media.

    I’m not saying there aren’t a lot of people out there who spend too much time hating, but there are a lot, lot more who spend time loving their neighbors, near and far, gay and straight. Most of these people, if pressed, would say they believe marriage is between one man and one woman, but they don’t really want to pick a political fight over it. And they won’t judge their gay neighbors over it. They care more about what they should be doing for the suffering around them than they do about making laws to limit what others do with their private lives.

  • Reply Poker Chick May 21, 2012 at 3:20 am

    Amen. They spend time and money creating that “let’s ban gay marriage” shit, and then we have to spend time and energy to defend it, because it’s a civil rights issue. Voila. Double the time and energy, wasted, when we could have been discussing something productive.

    Well said, Emily.

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